5 signs you might identify
1. Looks are mostly irrelevant.
While appearances aren’t the most significant aspect of a relationship for most individuals, they are important on some level. In fact, before even reading a profile, many of us swipe right based only on an attractive photo. Physical appearance, on the other hand, is irrelevant to demisexuals. Demisexuals prefer personalities to faces and are more interested in forming genuine connections based on shared interests than anything else.
2. Most of your relationships start out as friendships.
Because completely getting to know a potential partner is of immense importance to demisexuals, they often find themselves developing feelings for their friends. Which could mean, most, if not all, of your relationships, blossom out of friendships.
3. You enjoy sex, but it’s not super important to you.
Unlike a lot of individuals, sex isn’t at the top of many demisexuals’ priority list. That isn’t to say they don’t enjoy sex; they do, but it isn’t as important to them as, say, intellectually fascinating conversations. While you might think about having sex with one specific person, you don’t think about it or daydream about it in general, according to YouTuber Christi Kerr.
4. First dates are a huge deal for you.
First dates are important for everyone, but they’re especially essential for someone who identifies as demisexual. If you’re demisexual, you probably like to chat about serious things on your first date in order to have a better understanding of the other person’s personality, determine compatibility, and avoid wasting time.
However, this could also be a disadvantage. Your desire to learn more about someone may cause you to obsess over every detail of your impending date. It’s almost as if your first date would be an interrogation, and you’re only there for the answers. You don’t want to hurt someone by dating them unless you’re certain you’re attracted to them, which you won’t know unless you date them for a while… As a result, you’re in a precarious situation.
5. You’ve probably been called a “prude.”
It could be due of your demisexuality that people around you have dubbed you “old-fashioned” or accused you of being a “prude” when it comes to sex and dating (whatever that even means anymore…you should always do you, whatever that may be). Demisexuals aren’t typically sexually active and aren’t interested in one-night hookups (because again, they need to know someone well before feeling a strong attraction).
When it comes to sexual partners and orientations, remember that no one else’s opinion matters except your own. It’s difficult enough to figure out your sexuality and navigate the dating world without receiving unsolicited “advice” from others. The rest will fall into place if you stay true to yourself.
