While the concept goes against traditional relationship tenets, it is nonetheless a visible reality in today’s culture, and much of it has been covered here.
Because this unusual union is unlike any other partnership, the rules that govern its operation are also unlike any other relationship rules you may be familiar with.
So, if you ever find yourself in one, here are seven key principles to follow:
1. Love’s not welcome here
There’s a good chance that one or both of you may start getting sensations.
Allowing these feelings to flourish has a significant impact. When you act on them, your FWB connection becomes a proper relationship. And that’s not okay until you and your partner decide it’s what you actually want.
Relationships and FWB relationships are two distinct entities that must be managed separately. [Creative Commons] [C In love and content [Creative Commons] Nigerian Pulse
2. Sext, don’t text
“My place or yours?” is the only text message you should send a friend with benefits.
If you text in the same way that normal boyfriends and girlfriends do, discomfort and uncertainty are bound to arise.
3. Dates are for couples, not you
This one is hard because you might need to gather food at some point along the way. If this situation develops, don’t treat it like a romantic date.
And attending to any other event or occasion together is strictly forbidden in this type of relationship. These are the kinds of factors that cause humans to experience emotions.
You don’t want to catch any emotions here. The chances of those feelings not being returned are extremely high.
4. You can’t do this with a friend
Friends with benefits is a type of connection that works best when you’ve only recently met someone and haven’t formed a strong link with them. You don’t want to jeopardize important friendships in this way.
If you’re a hopeless romantic, this isn’t the best option for you because it’s a watered-down version of the type of relationship you’ll really want.
5. No jealousy
Never feel entitled to sex, no matter how good it is. Your ‘partner’ isn’t yours, and feeling entitled to them will make you jealous.
In an FWB relationship, none of it matters.
You don’t need to ruin things with jealousy. That’s not even allowed
6. You’re allowed to meet new people
FWB is what people do when they aren’t ready for a relationship but yet need to satisfy their sexual desires on a regular basis.
When the time comes, don’t close yourself off to new individuals because you’re in an FWB relationship.
You have no obligation to him/her in terms of loyalty or anything else.
It’s all about sex and nothing else. There’s no need for pointless small talk or emotional purges to make things awkward. Nigerian Pulse
7. No introduction to friends
Your friends and family don’t need to know about them. Nope.
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